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Tuesday, October 06, 2015

I Wonder if Donald Trump Had to Sacrifice a Newborn Baby or Simply Pledge his Soul to "Satan"?

Get your barf bags ready! Even "the Donald" looks like he wants to hurl. I wonder if Mr. Trump had to sacrifice a newborn baby or simply pledge his soul to "Satan" and just sign his name in blood in order to appease these loony cultists. Jeez!!! Does this crap get any bat$hit crazier than this? Is there anything low enough that the GOP will not do in order to suck in votes from anarchist Teabaggers and from the psychotically delusional American Pseudo-"Christian" Taliban? How pathetically whorish Republican politicians have become. "Make America Great". Yep, it sure does. Now, excuse me while I go spray my eyeballs with disinfectant after subjecting them to this political pornography. 

~ Bud Evans

Hmmmm...I guess not all Republicans are bad. There a few half-decent ones left.

Tuesday, September 29, 2015

The Pope: Govt. Workers Have Right to Refuse Gay Marriage Licenses: 

Wednesday, August 12, 2015

Playing the Race Card is Doing Nothing But Dividing Us...

Response to the Racist Op-ed: The Stonewall I Remember Wasn't Just White

This lesbian minister remembers the famous uprising and says it had as much to do with race as with sexual orientation. BY IRENE MONROE 
This mythical first person account fabricated from the alleged memories of a middle-schooler (in the article titled above), appeared in the Advocate on August 11, 2015. It smacks of overt anti-white racism and paranoid delusions of so-called "white privilege" trying to "white-wash" people of color out of the Stonewall Rebellion. Nothing could be further from the truth. A plethora of mentally defective anti-white racist trolls swarmed into the comment section to promote this race-baiting notion of so-called "white privilege".  These people are simply self-hating miscreants whose apparent only mission in life is to be perpetually outraged and offended because of their neurotic fixation on their manufactured race persecution delusions. Very sad indeed when we should have more unity, not less, in the LGBT community. ~  Bud Evans
...more of MY TAKE ON IT

This race-baiting over Stonewall is getting ridiculous. It reminds me of Homer's "The Iliad" with the Trojans and the Greeks fighting over the dead fallen bodies of Hector and Achilles. Is the corpse of Stonewall a trophy to be claimed and fought over like the ultimate prize of some civil rights competition? Who gives a rat's-ass over who threw the first goddamn brick! The first man to die in the Boston Massacre, which sparked the Revolutionary War in America, was Crispus Attucks (c.1723—March 5, 1770) a mixed race man who was half Black and half Native American. Did it affect the outcome of the war? No. Was it important to history? Very much so, because it framed history in a more inclusive way that demonstrated that many different kinds of people were involved in every aspect of early America -- even in such pivotal events as the Boston Massacre. But, more importantly, because it was the truth.

Can't we each just accept that all LGBT races were present and all fought courageously against the oppressors at Stonewall -- and continue to do so. It is just silly and non-productive to try to play "who was on the top of the hill first and what color of hands were first in the crowd to raise the rainbow flag". It really besmirches the spirit of the movement to run around claiming that this group or that group was more essential to the outcome of the protest. Additionally, that hackneyed phrase "white privilege" has got to be retired in reference to the Gay Community. White LGBTs were all equally considered scum by bigoted heterocentric society as much any other color variant in our LGBT community. When it comes to hating us, it is quite apparent that homophobia really is "color-blind".

The fog of the past seems to have clouded the minds of so many lately on this subject that it has obscured any possible view of a more hopeful future in a united LGBT community. Time to move on past the divisive politics of race. We have a Black President for god's sake! If the majority of people in this country were so deeply ensconced in racism, that never would have happened. 

Stonewall was a multi-racial event. But, if it makes you feel better to remember our history through some sort of special sub-textual agenda-laced lens that must accommodate your need to see all things in a way that most gratifies you -- go right ahead. Just don't hog the spotlight and pretend you are the most important item on the stage. The tableau of real life is rarely so simply painted in just black and white. Perhaps, just perhaps, that is why we have a Rainbow Flag. Let's keep our eyes on the road ahead and not let this petty infighting divert us from our ultimate goal of full uncompromised equality -- which is the birthright of not only all American citizens, but all people on Earth. 

...Et Pax Et Caritas
(C) Bud Evans, August 2015
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Thursday, July 30, 2015

Photos of Donald Trump’s Adult Sons Hunting in Africa Resurface ~ from the New York Daily News

A rifle-touting Donald Trump Jr. grins next to a buffalo he killed on a trip to Zimbabwe in 2011.

The decadence of the true "idle" class. Just hanging out and shooting bull like his dad. Poor Cape Buffalo, probably didn't have a green card. Maybe they should build a wall around Africa to keep wealthy American scum animal abusers out. ~ Bud Evans

Brothers Donald Trump, Jr. (l.) and Eric Trump (r.) are pictured with a cheetah that they killed on their 2011 trip to Zimbabwe.

Hey, what else are blood-thirsty mental degenerates to do when bored just spending daddy's casino money on fast women and faster cars? Become human spot-removers and help lower the number of already endangered African Leopards. Good job O' Courageous Big White Hunters! Now, you should be forced to eat it on the spot (so to speak). But, in reality, and in hand to hand (paw) combat, both of you would have had your pampered asses handed to you (in shredded pieces) and you know it. So, maybe not so tough after all. ...By the way, you're fired -- from the human race. Now take a walk.   ~ Bud Evans

New York Daily News Article by 
Wednesday, July 29, 2015, 1:32 PM

(click on link above for the full story....)

Friday, July 10, 2015

Love the Sinner, Hate the Sin ---- blah! blah!! blah!!!

LOVE THE SINNER, HATE THE SIN.... God, I hate that trite expression of religion-based bigotry. It deceptively implies that hating you is not hate, rather it is simply an altruistic form of "tough love". That is about as transparently bigoted as some racist proclaiming: "It's not that I don't love those inferior races, it's just that I hate those non-white colors."  Yeah right! Religious Bigots are no different with their own hackneyed: "Love the Sinner, Hate the Sin" mendacious motto -- especially when they turn their hypocritical vile rhetoric on the LGBT community while ignoring all of their own "Sin hating, Sinner loving" activities like adultery, turning blind eyes towards the suffering of the poor, and being haters to all non-tribe members in general.

Sadly, that velvet sledge-hammer of Christian Conservationism is not even found verbatim in their bible. It was actually a line, often misquoted and taken out of context, that was used by Mahatma Gandi. 

Here is an example of the spin Bible-bigots put on it at this link:

After clicking on the article above and reading it, it just seems like more hateful passive/aggressive anti-gay propaganda. What a double standard. So, only heterosexuals can have love and companionship in their lives with a spouse, but no one else can if they have a different sexual orientation and are deeply in love with someone of the same gender, eh? They must be celibate in order to qualify for some homophobic deity to love them? Thank God not every Christian is so heartless and feels that way. That is heterosexual egocentric supremacy at its worst hiding beneath the false veneer of outdated religious dogma.

I've been in love with the same guy for over forty years -- since we were both in our early twenties. We own a home together and we have been inseparable for all of those years. In 2004 we got married. My spouse, in the last fifteen years, has undergone two open-heart surgeries to replace a failing aortic valve. We have known good times and bad times; we've been together through sickness and in health; for richer and poorer, and in fidelity to one another for life. If anyone cannot see the virtue of love in that, then they do not know love and they cannot speak for a God that values love above all things.

Human decency cannot be forever defined by Bronze Age tribal taboos when people still thought the Earth was flat and that it was perfectly moral to own slaves -- as supported in both the Old and the New Testaments. What is so sad about this kind of anachronistic tribalism associated with spirituality is that, because of it, more and more church pews will become emptier and emptier as future generations reject these kinds of harmful anti-social prejudices. Just remember, in the world of tomorrow, if "God is dead" in the hearts of our future children it is because this current older and intransigent generation of bigoted people killed him by making him look and act more like the Devil -- when it was actually their own hateful face they put on their god.

For those who actually believe in a Christian afterlife; who still reject their neighbors and deny them their equal dignity and humanity because their neighbors will not conform to rigid and often misinterpreted conservative biblical injunctions, they should also be very mindful of this admonishment from Christ: "Truly I tell you, whatsoever you do unto the least of these, your brothers and sisters, you do unto me." Matthew 25:45. 

Is "live and let live" that difficult a concept to grasp? That should be particularly easy when your neighbors' choices have nothing to do with your own, nor are they dependent upon your approval -- especially when those choices do not break the law and do not impact you in any conceivable way that would require or justify your intervention. Instead, in order to coexist in a more harmonious community, we should celebrate what we all actually do have in common and not always seek to find a splinter in someone else's eye.  

 (c) Bud Evans, July 2015

Monday, July 06, 2015

Candid Reaction from School Children on US Supreme Court Marriage Equality Decision

Children are a beacon of hope and the promise of a better tomorrow. The video below shows exactly why that is true. ~ Bud Evans

(the sound starts about 17 seconds into the video)

Kids React to Gay Marriage Ruling
© Fine Brothers Properties 2015

The "Evolution" of President Obama

If you follow my posts here on this blog backwards to the very first entries, you will discover a chronological road-map to the very beginning of President Obama's political "evolution" on DADT and Marriage Equality. I had expressed much disappointment and frustration with him over the years -- vehemently at times (well deserved, I might add) -- but finally things came down in our favor. The battle is not over yet. We still have ENDA (the Employment Non-Discrimination Act) to push for in Congress, and so many other issues that challenge the LGBT community along with the rest of this sometimes chaotic nation. Yet, it is time to relax and enjoy a well-earned rest -- for tomorrow there will be plenty of hard work to be done.  Let us just savor the moment for now. ~ Bud Evans    

Sunday, July 05, 2015

Marriage Equality in the USA After June 26th, 2015



We hurried to the park by nightfall
as tap-dancing firecrackers kicked free
flocks of bottle-rockets which crisscrossed 
zigzagging glittering golden arches soaring
into an ephemeral ornamental sky
where nobody took notice
of the real stars anymore.

Below the techno-colored firmament
blue-hot sparklers sizzled like spitting torch lights
above the laughing heads of little children
as silly giggle-drenched teenagers dizzily stroked
Roman Candles into rapid fire eruptions.

Soon, synchronized oohs and ahhs from the crowd
punctuated the silence as colossal fiery petals 
of pyrotechnic flowers intermittently exploded open 
then withered to ashes within a span of brief surprise 
followed quickly by high pitched whistles and the hiss,
spit and sparkle of more rainbow-bursting skyrockets.

Later, in finale, rusty loudspeakers croaked out
a mechanical rendition of the Star Spangled Banner 
from atop a park gazebo as my spouse and I 
openly embraced and happily celebrated, at long last, 
this reborn America; reminded once more
that its irrevocable promise of Liberty and Justice
must be for All.

(c) Bud Evans

[Revised from a poem I wrote in July 2009 following the unfortunate November 2008 Prop 8 decision which, in many ways, led inexorably to this day of our victory]

Monday, June 29, 2015

Triumph of the Heart

White House illuminated with rainbow colors after Supreme Court legalizes same-sex marriage. June 26, 2015Photo by AP

!!!! LOVE WINS !!!!

FINALLY...LOVE Conquers HATE!!!!  We WIN!!!  LOVE WINS!!!! ...AMERICA WINS!!!!!

Tuesday, September 23, 2014

On Constitution Day, Tens of Millions of American Citizens in the LGBT Community Are Still Not Equal...

As tens of millions of American Citizens in the LGBT community are still fighting for their equality in the not-so-United States, it is only the US Constitution and its Bill of Rights that can offer any beacon of hope for the oppressed. But that was not always the case. It will forever remain deplorable that when the US Constitution was ratified, about seventy years before the addition of the 14th Amendment, it stated that Black people were to be considered 3/5 of a human being for the purposes of congressional apportionment only ( ie, denial of full citizenship for them meant no right to vote and to be treated as property). In other words, Blacks were to be counted as 60% human only for the federal census in order to create more congressional districts in the sparsely settled Southern slave-owning states that wanted more representatives in Congress. That blight created by our so-called glorious founding fathers will never pass completely out of the eye of History. It makes the immortal phrase "All Men Are Created Equal", so magnificently extolled in our Declaration of Independence, hypocritical at best.

Remember also, American women didn't even have the right to vote or participate in our government until 1920 with the passage of the 19th amendment. If you were born in the 1950's, just remember that many of our grandmothers couldn't even vote until they were nearly middle-age. Interracial marriage was also outlawed in many states until in 1967 all miscegenation laws were struck down nation-wide by the US Supreme Court in the Loving -vs-Virginia case brought before it. That means the marriage of President Obama's parents was considered a crime in many states before that ruling, and married interracial couples just passing through those states could be arrested and imprisoned. Can you even imagine the personal degradation of that kind of oppression?

Hopefully soon, all anti-same-gender marriage laws in the US will be struck down as well which unconstitutionally deny millions of same-sex couples the right of legal kinship. I see this happening in the next year or two, along with the abolition of those noxious state constitutional amendments which currently forbid millions of committed same-sex couples, many of whom have been together for decades, the same access to the rights, benefits and responsibilities for themselves and, in many cases, for their children, that only marriage can confer. The tide always turns against the oppressor eventually -- as witnessed by the increasing majority of people who now support same-sex marriage equality. But freedom should never be a "popularity contest". All people either have it (that is, full equality of citizenship) as a birthright or no citizen deserves it. Freedom and equality is not a special gift to give to those who may find favor with the majority; it's a human right that is not contingent upon your numerical percentage of the national population nor upon whether or not your beliefs are in accordance with the majority of other Americans.

So, yes, the US Constitution is an amazing document, not perfect mind you (much like the people who wrote it), otherwise it wouldn't have been amended so many times. Because of its enumeration of inherent rights, it is so much better than leaving every person's freedom in this country solely up to the whims and the tyranny of the majority. Inalienable rights are what indeed make this country strong and stable, not the culturally fluctuations of a 51% majority, always waiting in wings, who could take those rights away from you and me on a whim, at any time, without those protections guaranteed by our Bill of Rights, which, I hope remain embedded forever in the United States Constitution. ~ Bud Evans

Bud Evans - As tens of millions of American Citizens in the LGBT...

Thursday, June 05, 2014

Supreme Court Denies NOM; Oregon Marriages Will Continue |

"Marriage equality will continue to be the law of the land in Oregon, as the U.S. Supreme Court today refused to issue a stay. The antigay National Organization for Marriage had asked the nation's highest court to place a hold on that ruling, after the Ninth Circuit Court of Appeals denied that same request two weeks ago. Writing for the court, Justice Anthony Kennedy denied NOM's request in a one-sentence order without further explanation, reports SCOTUSblog."

The Washington Times: Still the Favorite Cult Rag of the Radical Right


He's dead now or perhaps he just bought some new real-estate on one of the celestial worlds in Mormon Cult Bishop Mitt Romney's afterlife neighborhood. Who know? Who cares? But the following tells just how bizarre, as well as how wide-reaching, his "influence" (ie money) was into Congress (on both sides of the aisle) during Moon's "shaking down the suckers" felonious material life.

The following article excerpts are from: "Rev. Sun Myung Moon, Self-Proclaimed Messiah Who Built Religious Movement, Dies at 92" by DANIEL J. WAKIN, published in the New York Times on Sept. 2, 2012.

"One of the more bizarre moments in Mr. Moon’s later years came on March 23, 2004, at what was described as a peace awards banquet held at the Dirksen Senate Office Building in Washington. Members of Congress were among the guests. At one point the Representative Danny K. Davis, an Illinois Democrat, wearing white gloves, carried in on a pillow one of two gold crowns, which were placed on the heads of Mr. Moon and his wife. Some of the members of Congress who attended said they had no idea that Mr. Moon was to be involved in the banquet, though it was hosted by the Inter- religious and International Federation for World Peace, a foundation affiliated with the Unification Church. At the banquet, Mr. Moon stated that emperors, kings and presidents had “declared to all heaven and earth that Reverend Sun Myung Moon is none other than humanity’s savior, messiah, returning lord and true parent.” He added that the founders of the world’s great religions, along with figures like Marx, Lenin, Hitler and Stalin, had “found strength in my teachings, mended their ways and been reborn as new persons.”

 "In the church’s view, Jesus had failed in his mission to purify mankind because he was crucified before being able to marry and have children. Mr. Moon saw himself as completing the unfulfilled task of Jesus: to restore humankind to a state of perfection by producing sinless children, and by blessing couples who would produce them."

 "Mr. Moon struggled against bad publicity. He was sent to prison on tax evasion charges and accused of influence-buying and of maintaining ties to the Korean Central Intelligence Agency. He denied both allegations."

"In the late 1970s, Mr. Moon came under the scrutiny of federal authorities, mainly over allegations that he was involved in efforts by the South Korean government to bribe members of Congress to support President Park Chung-hee. A Congressional subcommittee said there was evidence of ties between Mr. Moon and Korean intelligence, and that the church had raised money and moved it across borders in violation of immigration and local charity laws."

 "Prominent people were paid to appear at Moon-linked conferences. The first President George Bush did so after he left office. Others, like former President Gerald R. Ford, Bill Cosby, Mikhail S. Gorbachev and Jack Kemp, attended banquets and gatherings, sometimes saying later that they had not known of a connection between Mr. Moon and the organizations that invited them."

"Then, in October 1981, Mr. Moon was named in a 12-count federal indictment. He was accused of failing to report $150,000 in income from 1973 to 1975, a sum consisting of interest from $1.6 million that he had deposited in New York bank accounts in his own name, according to the indictment."

 “I would not be standing here today if my skin were white and my religion were Presbyterian,” Mr. Moon said after the charges were announced. “I am here today only because my skin is yellow and my religion is Unification Church.” He called the case a government conspiracy to force him out of the country. Mr. Moon was convicted the next year of tax fraud and conspiracy to obstruct justice and sentenced to 18 months in prison. He was assigned to kitchen duty.

"As his church’s fortunes declined in the United States, Mr. Moon revised his pro-American views. In a 1997 speech, he said America had “persecuted” him. He also attacked homosexuals and American women."

[Excerpts from "Rev. Sun Myung Moon, Self-Proclaimed Messiah Who Built Religious Movement, Dies at 92" by DANIEL J. WAKIN]

 For the entire article, please click on the link below:

Sunday, December 22, 2013

Good Wins Over Evil Again -- Utah's Bigoted Anti-Marriage-Equality Ban Overturned by Federal Court

"[Utah's] Amendment 3 perpetuates inequality by holding that the families and relationships of same-sex couples are not now, nor ever will be, worthy of recognition. Amendment 3 does not thereby elevate the status of opposite-sex marriage; it merely demeans the dignity of same-sex couples. And while the State cites an interest in protecting traditional marriage, it protects that interest by denying one of the most traditional aspects of marriage to thousands of its citizens: the right to form a family that is strengthened by a partnership based on love, intimacy, and shared responsibilities."

*** Robert J. Shelby, District Court Judge
Michael Adam Ferguson and J. Seth Anderson
Michael Adam Ferguson and J. Seth Anderson


Saturday, December 21, 2013

Friday, November 22, 2013

PHOTOS: Memories of JFK From His Gay Best Friend |

Memories of JFK From His Gay Best Friend

President John F. Kennedy was killed in Dallas 50 years ago, leaving behind a mourning nation and his gay best friend, Lem Billings.


NOVEMBER 22 2013 4:00 AM ET

In photos and excerpts from David Pitts's book Jack and Lem, we remember President John F. Kennedy through the lens of his lifelong friendship with Lem Billings. A historian wrote that after Kennedy’s assassination 50 years ago Billings was “probably the saddest of the Kennedy 'widows.’” Here is a look at their friendship. 
[attribution ADVOCATE magazine -- click on links for the complete story]
PHOTOS: Memories of JFK From His Gay Best Friend | (click on link for full article)

Wednesday, November 06, 2013


It Passed: Illinois Set to Become 15th State for Marriage Equality |

(photo attribution Getty Images - this photo appears on at the link above)

Fifteen states now, more to follow, jump aboard the 21st Century. California, New York, and now Illinois, three of the most populous states in America join together with twelve other freedom-loving states to pass marriage equality.

Saturday, August 17, 2013

San Antonio City Councilwoman Elisa Chan: The Ugly Face of Bigotry

Texas Councilwoman Caught Giving Master Class in Homophobic Idiocy

"San Antonio City Councilwoman Elisa Chan is entangled in a homophobia scandal after a former aide secretly recorded her and other staffers bashing gays as "disgusting" and saying gay marriage is a slippery slope toward legalized incest and bestiality.
James Stevens, who resigned from Chan's team this week, said he decided to record Chan after a May 21 office discussion about proposed updates to San Antonio's nondiscrimination ordinance went horribly astray..."

My Take On It:

Today, when one thinks of homophobic cretins one just has to turn on the TV news, or go to the internet (for less filtered and more reliable news sources) to see how countries like Russiaas well as nations in Africa and in the Middle East abuse their LGBT citizens. But wait! The United States of America, and especially the Southern States, are no less a contemptible example of the same cesspool that incubates and foments bigotry. 

Take for example, a recent audio tape (see the clip above) of stupidity and evil incarnate in the form of San Antonio City Councilwoman Elisa Chan and her minions of flying monkeys (such as Chan's former chief of policy, Jeff Bazan) who sit around the pickle barrel and dehumanize GLBT citizens in Texas while sounding much like a gaggle of neo-Nazis chucking and jawing about what to do with the "Jewish problem" in Nazi Germany. 

This is how it all starts. First there is the demonization of a politically unpopular minority; then comes the official apathy towards the physical abuse perpetrated by street-thugs against this disenfranchised minority; which inevitably leads to the killings, and then turning a blind eye to it while blaming the victims who "brought it on themselves" for not conforming to an unrealistic, "one size fits all", version of humanity.

It's despicable beyond belief that as a member of a racial minority herself, an Asian woman,  San Antonio City Councilwoman Elisa Chan, would gleefully join in on a gay-bashing with other knee-slapping bigoted cretins in her political strategy meeting, and then joyfully contribute her own pile of BS on top the garbage heap of lies and myths about the GLBT Community excreted by both her political compatriots and her sycophant bullies. Have you no shame San Antonio City Councilwoman Elisa Chan? As a minority yourself, is this what you think it takes to "fit in"?  You, Elisa Chan, as well as  your former chief of policy, Jeff Bazan, are disgusting beyond measure and you should not be entrusted with the public welfare of a beautiful city like San Antonio, nor should you be allowed to continue as a governmental representative voice for the diversity of its citizenry. 

If any city council member had uttered just a fraction of the garbage against another minority, which Elisa Chan spewed against the GLBT community, they would have been publicly shunned and asked to resign. Elisa Chan should do the honorable thing and step down immediately. If she can't represent all of the hard-working citizens, in all of their diversity in San Antonio, then she has no place being on the city council. No greater disservice can be done to this fine community. 

She must go. 

~ Bud Evans 2013 (c)

Friday, August 16, 2013

The Nazi Olympics in Berlin 1936 Mirrors The Thuggish Russian Olympics Upcoming in 2014

Below is a link to a short YouTube video critique of the Berlin Olympics in Nazi Germany in 1936. All of this begs the question: is the world again going make a similar miscalculation and allow Russia, this time, to paint a false pretty picture of a repressive regime without calling the world's attention to the horrors in that increasingly oppressive country? Are we going to make it easy for Putin and his neo-Nazi brown-shirts in the Duma, and on the streets, to perfume over Russia's stench of bigotry and intolerance while their nation hypocritically waves a flag of international solidarity along side the diversity of humanity around the world? 

This so-called "Host Nation" is openly and gleefully attempting to eradicate a genuine and unique facet within the beautiful and boundless gem of diversity that is humankind. In their own backyard, the Russian government is trying to wipe from the face of the Earth the visibly of their own persecuted LGBT population, and muffle, with violence, all of their cries for help. How can this brutal human-rights abusing nation be invested with the privilege and responsibility as a caretaker of international peace and unity? It was not that long ago that South Africa was banned (1964 to 1992) from even participating in the Olympic Games because of their apartheid racial policies; let alone being able to sponsor one. Has the IOC truly lost their moral compass and commitment to human rights? 

What the IOC (International Olympic Committee) is doing is practically the same as a school board turning a blind eye to a teacher entrusted with the safety of other people's children during the day, then going home at night and beating his own abused and neglected children as the world watches.  We as human beings and citizens of the world deserve better than this from the so-called "caretakers" of international events such as the Olympic Games. 

Watch the short 6min vid "The Nazi Olympics: Berlin 1936" at.

And please, never forget that cautionary admonition: "Evil flourishes when good men do nothing."

Ignoring a cancer only allows it to grow.

▶ The Nazi Olympics: Berlin 1936 - YouTube

Wednesday, July 31, 2013

Monday, July 01, 2013


Sometimes human beings, for all of their faults, get it right! I only wish that it was the rule, and not the exception.  Now is the time to celebrate, and then we must prepare for the final battles that await to divide us motivated by politically manipulated ignorance cashing in on fear and obsessed with the exclusionary practices of the past. We must also arm ourselves with both truth and justice against the false "gods" of intolerance wrapping themselves in selective and irrational religion-based dogma. But I believe, as certain as the sun shall rise on another day, that our battle for human dignity and equality will be won as long as love remains stronger than hate.  ~ Bud Evans


!!!! WE WIN !!!!

Now, when pigs fly (out of Kansas) or (more likely) after another positive Supreme Court decision, we will have full marriage equality in Kansas too. Hopefully soon. I'd love to rub it in and say: Bite me, Gov. Brownback and your band of false "christian" Taliban fanatics LOSE.



How The Empire State Celebrates Equality

The Empire State Building looks glorious in its rainbow-colored mantle -- just like America and the eternal beauty in its diversity. ~ Bud Evans

* Photo Credit: Splash News.

Wednesday, June 26, 2013

We Are Married....Let No One Put Asunder

A Personal Essay by Bud Evans

My spouse and I were married on September 13, 2004 in Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada. We have been together for more than thirty years. When we arrived back home in Kansas, the sky did not fall; dairy cows did not stop producing milk, and gravity was still intact -- although common sense and common decency seemed to have left our segment of the planet under the seemingly endless Kansas prairie sky. Yes, we got the expected "Welcome Back Home to the Good ol' USA!" reception alright to which we've sadly grown accustomed as Gay and Lesbian Americans.

For months, the vile malevolent specter of our very own local home-grown Kansas State Anti-Equality "Heterosexuals Only" so-called Marriage Amendment hung over our heads like the shadowy silhouette of a cowardly mugger ready to strike in ambush from a dark alley. Finally, in early April 2005, a Kansas lynch-mob, drunk with power and prejudice, at last had their little necktie party and strung up our Bill of Rights in the public square of totalitarianism. Apparently, American neo-fascists aren't satisfied with just being the insufferable bully on the international block, they must also have their pound of flesh at home too.

So what is so surprising about this scenario? Obviously there is not enough conflict in the world, so malicious malcontents in Kansas, as well as throughout most of the US, feel the need to stir up the flames of division even more. All of this brings to mind my saddest and most sustained observation concerning the United States in general. It is in regard to her citizenry's constantly evolving contempt for other Americans. Overall, it is Mankind's greatest single flaw too. But in the USA it is the perversion of Christian fellowship and tolerance that is being twisted into a pseudo-religious/right-wing political dogma of dissimulation and group-hate which will be the next great stain on America.

Political gay-bashing and religion-based bigotry has quickly become this new century's equivalent of racism, gender inequality and ethnic strife. Fanatical homophobia has been effortlessly revived and poisonously retooled from the last century’s panoply of prejudices so eagerly embraced in these perpetually un-United States. Once again, the drama is much the same -- only the characters on the stage are played by different actors.

As this tragedy unfolds, those whose duty it is to uphold America’s promise of equality once again turn a blind eye to this country’s absolute assurances of equal justice. How did this nation’s immutable guarantees of liberty degenerate into such an arrogant and heartless popularity contest in America? If you don’t like your neighbor, just simply write them out of the Constitution. Is that it? Is that all it takes to make them disappear? Just fashion a paper noose out of group-specific malicious laws and then lynch your neighbor on a gallows once called the Bill of Rights. Is that the level of barbarity to which we have regressed in America?

No, I did not expect homophobes to throw rice at our wedding, but occasionally, albeit foolishly, I expect a modicum of class from people I do not know -- such as the simple civility of minding one’s own business. I certainly do not appreciate strangers meddling in my personal affairs; especially when it concerns my marriage. That is not only bad manners, but it is truly beneath contempt.

So, unless Canada's Marriage Laws or the few Marriage Equality U.S. "free" States fair laws are changed to reflect America's narrow-minded contempt for her own most vulnerable citizens, then my marriage will stand in at least a few zones of freedom in the U.S. as well as elsewhere abroad where equality actually means something. And there is nothing any thug in the guise of religion or government can do about it. No amount of hatred for my spouse and me will ever un-marry us. I am confident that those miscreants who envy and despise our joyful union, as well as those unethical politicians who seek political power by inciting a mob mentality in the general public, will not be looked upon favorably by history nor by future generations.

The truth is that decent people elevate themselves by their own achievements and talents; not by standing on the backs of others who are least able to defend themselves. It's a very sad commentary on modern society, as well as on this really not-so-Christian country after all, that people will still do to others what they would not tolerate having done to them. That is the classic definition of a fascist. And that is certainly not what either The Founding Fathers or Christ would have envisioned for this not-yet-great nation.

Jesus who had embraced the disenfranchised, and who had walked amongst the outcasts of society, would weep today for what is done in his name. Equally shameful is the disrespect shown to the drafters of our Bill of Rights who took great pains to protect the "inalienable rights" of the less politically powerful against the tyranny of the majority. Just try to keep in mind those words: "Liberty and Justice for All..." and "That which you do unto the least among you, you do unto me." And according to all belief systems which respect the dignity of Humankind, whether secular or religious in nature, that mandate is simply this: All people are created equal in all ways and they are endowed with the same inherent rights, in all things, as all others -- there are no exceptions. Too bad some people still refuse to see it that way.

Bigotry has always had a peculiar way of eviscerating virtue when truth becomes particularly inconvenient in advancing petty prejudices and an anti-social agenda. Whether one makes a religion out of politics (such as in Nazi Germany or in Communist regimes) or fabricates politics from religion (such as fundamentalist deity-based totalitarianism anywhere on Earth) the end result is the same. The end result is intolerance, and that is the nexus of most human strife and suffering on this planet since time immemorial.

America owes a birthright of equality in all things, great or small, under the legal umbrella of citizenship which she extends to all of her children. No one's personal religious, ethical, political or any other belief system can ever be allowed to dictate which Americans should have rights and which ones should not. If that is not anathema to the revolutionary spirit of this country and an affront to our Bill of Rights, then nothing is.

The courage to stand up for the most vulnerable citizens among us against institutional and popular prejudice is a rare act of both bravery and virtue. People of good will, working together, perhaps can someday make America a shining example of a Constitutional Republic that keeps its solemn promise of equality for all. Maybe we can remind others that this nation’s guarantee of individual liberty would never allow one faction to ever vote away another citizen’s civil rights in a thoughtless expression of group-hate. I still believe that there are good and fair people in this country. But considering the lessons of the past, I hope we don't have to wait for the next generation to grow up in order to find them.

Yes, contrary to the presuppositions of inculcated hate and politically manipulated hysteria, there really is room enough at the matrimonial table for every consenting, non-related, pair of adult human beings who wish to marry in this world -- regardless of race, religion, ethnicity, politics, gender identity or sexual orientation. It is obvious to any student of history that loving, mutually supportive same-sex romantic relationships are as old as Mankind. It has always been so and will continue to be so as long as there is a human race.

Let us also not forget that the civil rights of Gays and Lesbians are protected in most of the industrialized Western world. In those truly civilized nations, same-sex oriented individuals can be open and honest about their orientation. Even in this country, which has such a long and shameful history on the issue of human rights, homosexual intimate relationships are just as legally protected under the U.S. Constitution as heterosexual intimate relationships -- as wisely decided by the Supreme Court in the Lawrence -vs- Texas decision on June 26, 2003.

Currently, the personal lives of tens of millions of Gay and Lesbian Americans are the bloody battlegrounds where this never-ending war against civil rights is being fought. It is a war that perennially pits progress and egalitarianism against the forces of ignorance and maliciousness. We may lose many battles to those foes who divide this great house against itself -- which we call America -- but ultimately we will win the final war against the enemies of human dignity and freedom. Of that I have no doubt.

Those who fanatically and sanctimoniously wave the banner of "tradition" are in reality only selfishly trying to protect their own special status at the expense of others. Obviously, if tradition was always such a virtuous thing to uphold we’d still have slavery; women wouldn't have the right to vote, and America would have a king.

The horrors of human bondage are most often conceived and perpetuated by using that contemptible excuse of upholding the self-serving status quo. Unquestionably, when tradition is used as justification to oppress others it becomes a thing of evil and an enemy of civilization. Old notions and elitists traditions must yield to inclusiveness and egalitarianism if peace is ever to be realized and a stable society maintained.

A hallmark of civilization is marriage, and marriage is both a binding oath of mutual loyalty and a personal contract which clearly details responsibilities and rights entered into between two romantically involved individuals who pledge to share their lives with one another. That very same institution belongs to all loving, non-related, adult couples. No apartheid-like system of separate tables (i.e. civil unions, domestic partnerships, etc.) will ever suffice. To deny same-sex couples who are also engaged in constitutionally protected, intimate, mutually supportive relationships the same protections and rights that many married heterosexual couples take so easily for granted is an affront to human dignity and an assault on American principles of fairness.

Too many brave and good citizens, Gay and Straight alike, have fought and died on too many bloody battlefields so that all people can partake of freedom. No one should belittle their ultimate sacrifice by parceling out equality as if it were their own special gift to give to a favored segment of society. I truly believe (just as I previously stated in an essay I wrote which appeared in the Kansas City Star) that there is more than enough room at the same table of marriage for each of us who wish to take on all the responsibility it demands, as well as reap its rewards. As tempestuous as marriage sometimes is, it most often provides for couples pledged to one another for life, be they heterosexual or same-sex couples, the only real promise of a safe harbor in which to lay anchor and to protect their most precious cargo -- each other.

We too have sworn an oath -- to have and to hold ‘till death do us part. My spouse and I made that promise to each other officially on September 13, 2004 when we were finally, legally allowed to be married in a country to the north which respects human dignity and individual liberty. Although, I still can remember that one cold winter night on January 10th, 1975, when Bill and I first met -- we were just kids in our early twenties then. We also made that pledge, albeit unofficially, to one another. Now as then, in good times and in bad times; forsaking all others; ‘till death do us part; let no one put asunder.

It means just as much to us today as then. And perhaps just a little bit more, because at least a few more compassionate people and a few more civilized nations are finally starting to respect our right to be recognized as a family at last. They know, as we do, that love is the most important ingredient that makes a family. Families can’t exist without it. All kinds of families spring into existence because of it. That is the bedrock of marriage. Nothing else is required except devotion -- plus the courage to fight for the ones you love in the face of adversity. That is what actually makes a family. And, in case anyone forgets, that is what marriage is truly all about.

(C) Bud Evans 2006 & 2010 & 2013 [originally published in 2006 and then revised in 2010 to reflect the growing number of Marriage Equality States which have joined the 21st Century by rejecting anti-GLBT bigotry as an official state policy]

(Bud Evans is a studio artist and writer who lives with his partner, Bill, for over forty years  -- who has also been his spouse since September 13, 2004 when they were legally married in Vancouver, B.C., Canada)

UPDATE: June 26, 2015  "WE WON!!!!!!!"  In All Fifty States Same-gender Marriage is Legal after the Obergefell -v- Hodges US Supreme Court Ruling in Our Favor!!!!!

UPDATE: July 7th, 2015 - The state of Kansas (personified by our villainous right-wing fanatical nut-job Governor Sam Brownback) is still being an asshole in rejecting state recognition of our marriage; the last holdout of all the fifty states. Go figure!  Gov. Brownstain can't hold out for much longer as the lawsuits are already flying his way. Get over it, Sam!  LOVE WINS, YOU LOSE!!!! ... Now, go copulate yourself, Brownback.  ..."SNAP!!!!"

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